It doesn’t always go down well with the other person if you just blather on without interruption. Topics become blurred, and the person you’re talking to usually doesn’t even know what the conversation is about. So the good old rule often applies: “Talk is silver, silence is gold.”
If, on the other hand, you are constantly talking, you will eventually get lost in your own words. If you can’t listen, eventually no one will be there to listen to you. For this reason, it is important to act and rethink.
You are no longer conversing for the sake of a well-intentioned and generally understandable conversation, but are subject to an urge to talk. The origin of the urge to talk is often found in your insecurity. Likewise, a lack of self-confidence can sometimes be to blame for your giving in to the urge to talk all the time. The constant need to talk can trigger an avalanche of inner turmoil in you and increase the problems of your soul suffering.
By not listening, you risk misunderstandings with colleagues or customers, which can ultimately trigger a high level of suffering. Therefore, one thing should be clear to you: Bad speakers are recognized immediately, bad listeners only later. And this is exactly where you should do something. You can change learned stress reactions such as speaking quickly and interrupting others. Becoming aware of the problem is the beginning of change.
Someone tells you a story about their current problem that they need the support of a good listener to solve. Of course, not everyone is suited to put themselves in the shoes of the storyteller by listening adequately. Perhaps in the beginning it will come down to the fact that as a previously poor talker, you will most likely not be a good listener during the initial period of rethinking.
But good listening can be learned. It requires empathy, understanding, and a high regard for the other person. If, after a certain amount of time, you are able to mentally grasp quotes from another person in such a way that feelings arise in you, you are well on the way to changing your behavior. The constant desire to give in to the urge to talk subsides and you slowly grow into the role of listener. This process expands your awareness of others as well as yourself and allows your self-confidence to grow bit by bit. When this newfound self-confidence takes the place of your stress, you find yourself on the winning side of life.
